First dates. Ah, the awkward, the exciting, the nerve-wracking hours when you’re not even dating, you’re just… on a date. Where small comments can make or break the next date and a weird sneeze can make you die with embarrassment. The best things to say on a first date are debatable, but there are some definite DON’Ts that we should all follow.
1) “I hate my job/life/parents”
Keep the negativity out! While you don’t need to pretend your job shoveling horse crap is your life’s goal, by highlighting the positive parts and expressing your hopeful wishes for the future, you steer clear of looking like a grouch.
2) “I want to have at least 3 kids by the time I’m 30”
Guy or lady, setting your expectations on the table within the first hours of meeting a person can be intimidating, and a major turn-off. Unless you met on Match.com and are both looking for a quick marriage, keep the conversation light-hearted for the time being.
3) “Nice shirt, does it come in a guy’s size?”
Your sarcasm might fly with your friends who think it’s a key aspect of your personality, but busting out your scathing wit on a first date could kill the mood and make your date think you’re a real jerk.
4) ” A public health care option is socialism” (or anything politically damning)
I’ve always been opposed to the rule that dinner parties should avoid talking about sex and politics, as they can get a group of people into rousing conversation. However, on your first date with someone, saying something extremely far to the left, right, or whatever direction you skew could ruin the date in a very uncomfortable fashion. Even if your date tries to get you to share your opinions, make them in as least-confrontational a manner as possible.
5) “I can’t eat that. I’m on a diet.”
Nothing makes a woman look more high-maintenance or a guy more self-centered than saying no to sharing a dessert or an appetizer because they’re on a diet. It’s great you’re watching your waistline and that health is important to you, but for goodness sake just cut back on the calories tomorrow, or risk your date being really turned off.