Can A Lady Be a Player?

Urban Dictionary lists approximately 300 definitions of the term “Player.” Of those, about 4 say that it can be a man or a woman. In general, the definition says ” a guy who is sustaining supposedly exclusive relationships with multiple girls simultaneously.”

However, switch the two genders and to most, the word being defined would be “whore.”

The term player, while occasionally used in a negative sense, is often considered impressive. Guys can easily say they are not looking for a relationship and just want to have fun, without being considered dirty or dishonorable. On the other hand, women who sleep with multiple partners are often considered to be “slutty.” With the changing times, though, and the popularity of shows like Sex and the City, Grey’s Anatomy, and Cougar Town, successful women who aren’t interested in settling down or having children are becoming more and more the norm.

So, yes, a woman can be a player, without being a slut. The only part of the definition that should be changed is “supposedly exclusive.” If a woman (or a man) is comfortable going out and having fun, possibly with multiple partners, the only advice we have is not to tell your partners that they are the only one you are sleeping with. You should let them know that you two aren’t in a relationship, if only so you two continue to practice safe sex. Visiting a site like OnlineBootyCall.com can increase your chances of finding someone who isn’t looking for something exclusive, as their tagline is “Don’t promise marriage just to get a date.”

Being a player is not just for guys anymore!