Compromise in a Relationship

When you’re a kid, parents and teachers always tell you never to compromise your beliefs. It’s important, they say, to always stand by your expectations and morals. However, the second we get into committed relationships, the advice changes. Now, people say that dating is all about compromise. Suddenly, you might be a little confused about what compromise is, and how important it is. Here are a few times you should (or shouldn’t) be willing to compromise.

  • DO compromise your expectations.

Although you should always look for the best possible person for you, it’s important to realize that sometimes your standards might be a little bit… much. Saying that you will only date someone if they are over 6′ tall is setting yourself up for failure. Perhaps you’re usually into tall men or thin women, but you don’t know what the other types have to offer unless you try!

  • DON’T compromise your beliefs

Of course people change throughout your life, and if you meet someone (perhaps on CatholicMingle) you want to be with forever who has different religious beliefs than you, you might opt to convert for them. However, don’t change your morals and beliefs just to fit the mold that someone else desires. Unless you feel that you genuinely have a change of heart, keep the ethics that are most important to you.

  • DO compromise on the little things

A face they make when they’re thinking, or a disagreement about TV shows, these little things are unimportant in the big scheme of things. If you’re in a relationship and you find yourself unable to compromise on little aspects of daily life, it might mean there is a bigger problem in the relationship.

  • DON’T compromise family

Once you’ve been in a relationship for a while, it’s easy to fall into a day to day habit that doesn’t include your family. Remembering where you came from and who raised you is an important part of life. And when it comes to your significant other, speaking out against their relatives is a major not-okay.