Fighting in a Relationship

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Just because you’ve been arguing for a few days over small, petty disagreements, doesn’t mean it’s time to throw in the towel and call it quits. If anything it means you’ve been around each other a little too much and need to cool off, but at least you aren’t passively living day to day without caring about each other, right?

However, there are a few ways to make your fighting more productive and less anger-inducing, and DatePro’s got a few that could help you out.

1. Using “We” Words

Instead of yelling and using blame-filled words towards your mate, discuss the things that you both as a couple should work on. By being less accusatory, you’re less likely to escalate to the argument to a full blown fight. For example, instead of saying “you’re so messy,” say “we disagree on how organized the house should be,” and go from there.

2. Don’t use extreme words

The biggest mistake people make when arguing is using words like “always,” “so,” and “never,” you’ll keep the argument realistic and under control. The second some starts shouting “You always forget to wash your plates!” you will no longer be stating your case, but instead will be attacking the person. This is not productive.

3. Don’t bring up the past

Keep in the present; if you’re arguing about something from that morning, don’t bring up that time four years ago when the same thing happened. Not only is it pointless, but it could steer your partner into bringing up one of your past transgressions, thus spiraling your argument into a full-blown fight. This increases your chances of breaking up, or at least putting quite a dent in your otherwise great relationship.

If all else fails, just remember: the break up sex will be great.