How Has The Internet Affected Dating?

We read articles of this nature nearly every week in this business – long-winded posts featuring people trying to explain the nuances of a rather misunderstood business – finding love online. I must say though, this article from the Guardian is by far the most introspective and colorful of the couple dozen I have read in the last couple years in this industry.

Written by technology correspondent Aleks Krotosky, the article discusses the strange notion of our most intimate of connections being mediated on a “cold, logical machine,” a perfect description of the strangeness of meeting someone online. She goes on to cite the work of Julian Dibbell, who wrote about the text-based LambdaMOO from the early 90:

“Well-rounded, colourful sentences start to do the work of big, brown, soulful eyes; too many typos in a character’s description can have about the same effect as dandruff flakes on a black sweater.” (Something tells me he was successful in online dating!)

Citing many other sources other than Dibbell, Krotosky makes a great case for finding love online. Much better, of course, than anyone who actually works in the industry could. Her outside point of view provides an thought-provoking and honest look at a generation in which 1 in 5 marriages are formed online (interestingly enough, she is from the UK, where the percentage is even higher).

Aleks ends her article by asking an important question, about whether or not we as a population are expecting too much from the love we find online. If we’re matched on “39 dimensions of compatibility,” might we expect too much –  that each match is The One?

Read the rest of this great article at The Guardian, and let us know what you think.

Is online dating a great way to be matched honestly and deeply? Or have we turned online dating into a place that gets your hopes up and inevitably lets you down?

1 thought on “How Has The Internet Affected Dating?

  1. I don’t look at online dating as a way to find The One per se. I look at online dating simply as a way to weed out a large percentage of disaster dates. Depending on which site you subscribe to with their personality tests and chemistry questionnaires and what not, at the very least, the first date should turn out to be a friendly dinner.

    Yes, disasters can find their way into your online dating pool, but compared to meeting in real world and dating on a whim, or heaven forbid, a blind date…I’d pick online any day.

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