Open Relationships

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There have been countless studies done in the past few years that show overwhelming evidence that man is not a monogamous creature by nature. Although we have trained ourselves to believe that there is a “One” who will fulfill us for the rest of our lives, it isn’t exactly realistic to believe this. However, there are also studies showing that man craves companionship. The desire to have a mate to come home to is driven by our fear of being alone, so having a boyfriend or girlfriend is very desirable.

With these new revelations, there are certain couples who believe that an open relationship would fit their lifestyle. An open relationship is one in which the couple stays emotionally committed to each other, while exploring sexual relationships with others. Those who do this successfully claim it has saved their marriages!

Before you engage in an open relationship with your partner, however, you might want to ask yourself a couple questions:

1) Are you sure you shouldn’t just break up?

Sometimes the desire to cheat doesn’t just mean your hormones are acting up, it means you just aren’t attracted to your mate anymore. Perhaps there is someone out there who could satisfy you emotionally and sexually. Don’t stay in a relationship just for comfort. You should still want to have sex with your partner, and if you start sleeping with other people, chances are you’ll find someone out there you really like, and end up breaking up.

2) Are you both secure in your relationship?

If you know that you two are still “in love” but want to have sex outside of the relationship, you should first make sure that jealous instincts won’t kick in and ruin it. The second one of you gets hurt or offended by an extra-marital affair, the open relationship situation will be over.

3) Can you agree on boundaries?

If the two of you decide to indulge in an open relationship, you should set down ground rules that both of you agree on. Will you share your affairs with each other or keep them quiet? How often should you be with each other? Every night? Or is it okay to spend the night somewhere else? Will you participate in threesomes (If so, check out this article: >>> link to bcu article on threesomes)? All of these questions, and more, should be addressed before you decide to begin an open relationship.

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