Privacy
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Having personal space in a relationship is important, as we have discussed before, however there is an important aspect of personal space that should be analyzed further: privacy. It’s easy to fall into a rhythm in a relationship where you think it’s acceptable to be involved in every aspect of your mate’s life, and feel threatened when you aren’t. On the contrary, one of the keys to having a successful relationship is retaining some semblance of your independent life, and one of the ways to do this is keeping some parts of your life private.
Our top 3 rules for keeping your privacy in a relationship might seem tough to follow, but they’ll make your relationship healthier and your help you keep your sanity.
1. Never read each others texts or e-mails
Your partner’s phone should be off limits in general. By showing them that you trust them, you are in turn showing your trustworthiness. No matter how badly your urge, or how “sneaky” they seem to be acting, you should never take it upon yourself to play private investigator. If you suspect they’re doing something untrustworthy, mention that you feel they’ve been a little distant and shady recently.
2. Don’t ask their friends about them
If your mate is doing something shady, like cheating, or seeing their ex, the last people you should ask about it is their friends. If they do know something, you’ll make them feel incredibly uncomfortable, and if they don’t, they’ll end up going back to your mate to share that you don’t trust them. Leave their friends out of it, always.
3. Don’t snoop!
Whether it’s your girlfriend’s purse or your boyfriend’s notebook, the moment you intentionally search their things you become a threat. If they catch you, they’ll never trust you around their things again, and if they don’t, you’ll constantly have issues respecting their privacy. Don’t even let the idea tempt you- if you need something from the purse or notebook, ask them to get it for you, so they know you would never go through their things without asking.
Follow these rules and you’ll have a healthy, trust-filled relationship. And if a bill for AshleyMadison comes in the mail, you’ll be able to say, “I trusted you, and you messed up.”
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