Should You Get Married?

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Perhaps you were snooping where you shouldn’t have, or maybe it was just in plain site… but you came across a suspicious looking receipt from a store that only sells engagement rings. The thirty seconds you spend staring at it feels more like a year, and your brain and heart are pounding at a mile a minute. This is the point where you start to wonder…. should I be getting married? There are, of course, a few tell tale signs that you aren’t: if you throw up, like Carrie on Sex and the City, if you immediately want to sleep with every guy in sight, or if you have the sudden unshakable urge to get a plane flight to Bali…. you probably aren’t ready.

There was a day and age where marriage was 100% expected. It was the way life worked, and to go against it was to be subversive, and often times shunned by family and friends. In 2010, however, couples can date for years and never get married or even choose never to have children. Sometimes, though, there comes a point in a relationship where the topic of marriage comes up. If you’re really considering it, there are still a few questions you should ask yourself.

Here are DatePro’s tips to gauge whether or not you really want to tie the knot.

1. Can you see yourself with this person in 10, 20, 50 years?

The fact of the matter is over 50% of marriages end in divorce. And while it is an option, you shouldn’t assume that you can just back out of the marriage if it doesn’t work. If you really believe that you will still love your partner forever, then go for it. If you’re even the slightest bit questionable about it, you should probably say no.

2. Are you ready to share everything?

Once you get married, you’re going to have to move in together, share a bedroom, finances, and more. If you like your privacy at times or aren’t sure about sharing a bank account, marriage probably shouldn’t be in your future. You can easily stay a couple, with your own separate lives, without getting married.

3. Are you going to be faithful?

After being together for years, a stagnant sex life is almost inevitable. Do you trust that both you and your partner will be willing to work on your relationship to keep it passionate for years to come? Or do you think you, or your partner, will stray? One of the main reasons for divorce is infidelity, so if you think it might happen, don’t set yourself up for failure, and a major dent in your bank account.

Before you even consider getting married, these questions should be asked. Perhaps you’re only getting married because you feel pressured by parents or friends. There is no shame in staying single, as long as you like. You aren’t in the minority, in fact there are millions of singles on sites like OnlineBootyCall who realize that being single and casually dating is fun, and that you shouldn’t have to promise marriage just to get a date. Remember: it’s 2010, not 1810… Singlehood is the new marriage!