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You got up the courage and asked out that attractive someone from Matchmaker.com. After a 2 hour dinner, all you can say is that you had nothing in common, he said he preferred blondes when you are clearly a brunette, or she  spit when she talked. But somehow your news-worthy awful first date still thought a second one was in order. In this case, you are going to have the unfortunate duty of rejecting the second date, which can be awkward and sometimes almost sad. Here is our guide to rejecting a second date.

1. Be nice

This might seems like an obvious one, but let the person down nicely. Throw in a “You’re a really nice girl” or a “I know you’ll find a nice girl” somewhere so that they don’t leave and hang themself from a lamppost somewhere.

2. Be honest

Don’t drop a “it’s not you, it’s me,” because it’s not true. Something about them irked you, and while you don’t have to say “the way you ate made me nauseas,” you should say, “I just didn’t feel any chemistry.” The bottom line is, if you don’t be honest about disliking them, they’ll probably still chase a second date, and having to reject them a second time is going to be terrible.

3. Be assertive

They may try and weasel in a comment about how they were nervous, or that you should try again, but you must put your foot down now, lest they leave 20 voicemails promising to be better or show up at work demanding a second date. By saying “No,” you’ll be free to move on with your life- most likely to another first date you’ll have to reject again.

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Dating is such a weird concept. Who invites? Who pays? How long until you call? It’s pretty confusing. After a first date, most women would prefer to wait for the guy to call them again for a second, but sometimes it just doesn’t happen. Should you call him? Of course, there is nothing wrong with a call or text, but the truth is if a guy wanted a second date, he’d probably call. Here are some reasons he might not want a second date.

1. You weren’t grateful.
With sites like WealthyMen and shows like the Real Housewives, sometimes guys are expecting women to be using them for their money, even if they aren’t really well-off. If you’re not very grateful (you can’t really say please and thank you enough), he might assume you weren’t interested, just bored. If you like the guy and are having a good time, be vocal about it. Thank him and let him know you had a really good time. If you don’t say it, how will he know?

2. You were on your phone. The whole time.
As DatePro has discussed before, we know that it’s the 21st century. People have phones with them almost every minute of the day. However, if you’re texting every five minutes, he’s assume you’re not having a good time and telling every one of your girlfriends about it. Instead, be attentive and present, and keep your phone in your purse. Check it after dinner or if you use the restroom. Be polite!

3. You were a prude.
Now, now, we don’t mean you have to put out after the first date. But it’s not the 1800s. You can kiss him after the first date without him thinking you’re some floozy. If you turn away at a kiss, won’t hold his hand, or get offended when he invites you to his apartment, he’s going to think you’re a tease who isn’t interested. Don’t compromise your standards, but show him that you are, in fact, attracted to him.

4. You were annoying.
You whined about your food, you complained about your drink, you rambled about your roommate and after a couple glasses of wine, you cried about your ex. There is nothing attractive about a girl who is self-absorbed and obnoxious. Ask questions, be polite, and be positive.

5. You were too clingy.
Guess what, it’s a first date! You two aren’t engaged; actually, you’re not even in a relationship. So if he talks to another girl, don’t get jealous. And don’t wrap yourself around his arm like a boa constrictor. If you’re already making him feel smothered 3 hours into dating, trust us. There will not be a second date. Guaranteed.

You are a woman, and you got a first date. Be yourself, but keep this tips in mind, and a second date is practically inevitable!

We live in an age where dates are getting more and more rare, as internet dating gets more popular and relationship rules get less stringent and standard. However, sometimes you meet a girl who you’re really interested, and want to get to know, not just while screaming from across a bar. Ladies are almost always up for a guy to take them on a first date, but getting a second date is tough, and almost solely dependent on your behavior on the first. Here are some reasons that guys don’t get second dates:

1. You were cheap.
Sure, we live in a time where gender equality has more importance than chivalry. Opening doors and pulling out chairs is not totally necessary anymore. But it is still expected for a guy to pay for dinner/drinks/movie tickets on the first date. Not only is it polite, but it is very much a kind gesture that will be greatly appreciated.  Although it’s not totally about the money (or else she’d probably be checking out SugarDaddie.com), if you don’t pull out your wallet and front the bill on the first date, your chances of getting a second are greatly diminished.

2. You got too drunk.
We’re all adults here, and we all know a couple cocktails can really take the edge off a first date. So of course, there is nothing wrong with having fun with your date and having some drinks. And sometimes you’ll both end up getting pretty buzzed. However, if your dates had a glass of wine and your pounding back your 5th shot and slurring about your ex… well… it’s not cute. And that image of you tripping over your chair is going to stick in her mind for a while.

3.You tried to get her too drunk.
There is nothing worse than a guy who keeps ordering you drinks when you say “No, I’m good.” Even if you’re just trying to show that you want her to have fun, it comes off as your trying to get her drunk so you can sleep with her. If she wants another drink, then by all means, order it. But whatever you do, don’t make her feel like you’re trying to lower her inhibitions.

4. You were too interested.

It’s a first date, and naturally, you want her to know that you like her. You can compliment her, and be attentive and kind, but too much talk about how much you’re into her, and how pretty she is, and how you can see a future with her… is creepy and a total turn off. Be at least a little aloof. Women, just like men, enjoy a bit of a chase. If there is none, why should she even try?

5. You hated on your ex. Hard.

Everyone has the ex that they pretty much despise. Perhaps it was a bad break up, or there was cheating, or whatever, but there is nothing weirder than a guy who spends half the date talking about what a terrible human being his ex was. While you may think you’re just showing you’re totally single, to her, it will sound more like you are still totally in love with your ex-girlfriend. And no lady wants to date a guy who is still hung up on another woman. So keep the banter about the ex short and sweet.

Keep these DatePro rules in mind and your chance of getting a second date with that special lady is definitely increased. Good luck!