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Perhaps you ran into her at the grocery store, or maybe you saw him at a mutual friend’s get together. You chat, have a couple drinks, and head home. But maybe you’re thinking, “he sure is looking good these days,” or “she seems to have really matured.” And maybe for the next few days you wonder what it might be like to get back together. Before you pick up the phone and beg for a second chance, ask yourself these questions.

1) Are you lonely?

Lots of times, people mistake the feeling of loneliness for the feeling of desire. Maybe you’ve never really been single before, so you’ve been spending your nights alone and you’re starting to feel a little depressed. This, especially, does not mean that you should go try and win back your ex, in fact it means the opposite, you should be going out and having fun with friends and remembering what it’s like to be single. Whether you’re dating other people or just playing it cool by yourself, it’s better than trying to rekindle a romance that will just set you back another year in your life plan.

2) Have you (or they) changed whatever trait caused you to break up?

If you’re still lazy, or he/she is still a cheater, getting back together is the worst possible idea. Not only will you turn a blind eye for a while, but when you finally decided to notice the flaw again, it will bother 100 fold. Just remember, there is a reason you broke up, and for the most part, that reason is never going to go away.

3) Do you only want them because they are unavailable?

Did you have an irresistable urge to get back together cause you saw them with another person? Is the feeling of “love” that you have actually thinly veiled “jealousy”? Look, you will always have feelings for your ex, and those feelings will generally be expressed at jealousy. Don’t let this get in the way of logical thinking, though. Just as we stated in the previous point, people don’t just break up to break up, there was a reason you stopped seeing each other. Remember that reason the next time you think about rekindling an already failed romance.

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Perhaps you were snooping where you shouldn’t have, or maybe it was just in plain site… but you came across a suspicious looking receipt from a store that only sells engagement rings. The thirty seconds you spend staring at it feels more like a year, and your brain and heart are pounding at a mile a minute. This is the point where you start to wonder…. should I be getting married? There are, of course, a few tell tale signs that you aren’t: if you throw up, like Carrie on Sex and the City, if you immediately want to sleep with every guy in sight, or if you have the sudden unshakable urge to get a plane flight to Bali…. you probably aren’t ready.

There was a day and age where marriage was 100% expected. It was the way life worked, and to go against it was to be subversive, and often times shunned by family and friends. In 2010, however, couples can date for years and never get married or even choose never to have children. Sometimes, though, there comes a point in a relationship where the topic of marriage comes up. If you’re really considering it, there are still a few questions you should ask yourself.

Here are DatePro’s tips to gauge whether or not you really want to tie the knot.

1. Can you see yourself with this person in 10, 20, 50 years?

The fact of the matter is over 50% of marriages end in divorce. And while it is an option, you shouldn’t assume that you can just back out of the marriage if it doesn’t work. If you really believe that you will still love your partner forever, then go for it. If you’re even the slightest bit questionable about it, you should probably say no.

2. Are you ready to share everything?

Once you get married, you’re going to have to move in together, share a bedroom, finances, and more. If you like your privacy at times or aren’t sure about sharing a bank account, marriage probably shouldn’t be in your future. You can easily stay a couple, with your own separate lives, without getting married.

3. Are you going to be faithful?

After being together for years, a stagnant sex life is almost inevitable. Do you trust that both you and your partner will be willing to work on your relationship to keep it passionate for years to come? Or do you think you, or your partner, will stray? One of the main reasons for divorce is infidelity, so if you think it might happen, don’t set yourself up for failure, and a major dent in your bank account.

Before you even consider getting married, these questions should be asked. Perhaps you’re only getting married because you feel pressured by parents or friends. There is no shame in staying single, as long as you like. You aren’t in the minority, in fact there are millions of singles on sites like OnlineBootyCall who realize that being single and casually dating is fun, and that you shouldn’t have to promise marriage just to get a date. Remember: it’s 2010, not 1810… Singlehood is the new marriage!

PrimeSingles is a dating site for older (40+) singles who are looking for love in their area.

While a smaller site than most, it is dedicated to bringing local singles together for both friendship and love! It shows this through promoting its members local events (like holiday parties and dances) and by allowing you to read each e-mail you receive even if you are not a paid member. Although you can not reply unless you have a membership, being able to see who is contacting you and reading what they have to say is key in deciding whether or not a paid membership is worth it!

By singing up for free, you can check out the members and see if there are any in your area. You can be sure that any profiles you browse are real people looking for love because older, non-active accounts are monitored and eventually deleted.

If you are an older single looking for love, or just someone looking for fun events with other locals in your area, head over to PrimeSingles and check out what they have to offer!

The Definition:

What is a Booty call? While today’s definitions of this term may vary from humorous to more serious in nature, one thing is clear: Booty calls and the act of booty calling have definitely infiltrated the cultural zeitgeist and haves become a term that is known to people of all ages.

Starting as a slang term coined in the 1990s, booty calls as a concept have evolved over the past two decades.

The History of a Booty Call:

The term ‘booty call’ is believed to have been officially coined in the early 1990’s by a series of comedians, rappers, and writers who used the term to describe a specific encounter – literally picking up the phone, calling someone you’d like to see that night/early morning for one thing and one thing only: booty. No strings attached.

However, through the years, the term has clearly changed. Shadowing the cultural changes that have taken place over the past two decades, the term has evolved and changed to include an expanded definition.

Modern day booty calls:

Today, booty calls mean something more. No longer only about sex, booty calls today truly mean an encounter of your choice. The key is connecting with someone with similar interests without having any unrealistic expectations. The Millennials have had quite a bit to do with this trend. Generational and pop culture trends are also showing that Gen X and Y are taking a “marriage can wait” approach and are settling down later in life, embracing the freedom they have now. Women have embraced the term thanks to television’s sexually empowered characters like Samantha Jones in Sex & the City, who’ve made it socially acceptable to be open and forthright about fulfilling one’s sexual needs. And men, well, men are usually down for anything!

Wanna find a booty call now? Check out Online Booty Call, the best online dating site for singles looking to meet new people, have fun, and get some booty!

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Connect with singles just like you anytime, anywhere, and anyhow through Lavalife’s voice, web, and mobile platforms.  The best part is that it’s completely free to search, browse, flirt, and find singles that you want!  At Lavalife, you get to move at your own pace and on your own terms, so you will never be disappointed!