The Laws of Pick Ups

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We’ve all seen the Pick Up Artist, that show that supposedly teaches nerds how to pick up on women using some weird, reverse psychology that I think we all know doesn’t work. Instead, here are some rules to follow that will, if anything, portray you as a nice guy with real intentions, something that most girls don’t see every day.

1. Make eye-contact

Seriously. For God’s sake, make eye-contact. This is very attractive. If you’ve got the confidence to walk up to her, look her in the eyes. In fact, eye contact from across the room is even better, because you can show her you’re interested, and she can return the look if she is too. If she immediately averts her eyes or rolls them and walks away, don’t even waste the trip across the room. Once you get face to face, continue making eye contact. If you’re checking out her bod or looking over her shoulder, it’s a total turn off. Look her in the eyes and smile, and you’re already halfway there.

2. Don’t express interest in her and her friend

This isn’t crab fishing, sir. You shouldn’t be throwing a net out to see what you can pull in. This should be spear-fishing, you’ve got a target, you’ve been checking her out all night, now strike. If you approach her and notice she has an equally attractive friend, don’t start flirting with both of them. Not only does it look like you’re a player, but it also negates the most important rule, to make her feel special.

3. Be friendly

Sure, the mysterious guy is always alluring, so a little bit of intrigue should be apparent in your conversation, but if you’re a normal guy with a normal life who isn’t a CIA operative, just talk like a normal person. Women can see right through the “mysterious” approach, I promise you. Make friendly conversation, and remember what you talk about. Nothing turns a girl off like you asking her where she’s from 22 times.

4. The power of touch

Once you’ve got her roped in with interesting conversation, it’s time to embrace the power of touch. A light touch on the arm or leading her by the small of her back is understated, yet sexy. Straight up groping her in the middle of a bar? Dealbreaker.

5. Make her feel special

There is a very exact equilibrium that should be attained when flirting with a woman. Too heavy handed with the compliments and you’ll come off shallow and annoying. Not enough compliments and you’ll seem arrogant and uninterested. By mixing compliments with a listening ear and a friendly smile, you’ll be back to her apartment in no time.