Who Pays?
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Most of the time this one is a no brainer, so let me begin by explaining the most common first date scenario. Usually, a guy is going to be the one who initiates the first date. In this situation, it seems only appropriate for him to pay. It may come off as a bit old fashioned to expect the man to always pay on a first date, but it only makes sense when he is the initiator. This way, it is effortlessly established that the man will be the decision maker for the date. He gets to choose the plan of events and the venues and will therefore have control over the price range. If he is comfortable with taking his date to the most expensive restaurant in town, then so be it, but he needs to make sure that he can take care of the bill. There is no worse way to ruin the mood on a date than the awkward situation of figuring out who should pay. Keep it simple and classy and if you ask a woman to go out with you, make sure you pay in full!
Now…the more unlikely (but increasingly popular) situation that may arise, is a woman deciding that she wants to ask a guy out. This is beginning to happen more and more as women are becoming more confident in being first-move makers. While I completely encourage this, it can lead to some confusion when it comes down to who pays the bill at the end of the night. If a woman offers to pay, most of the time she is just trying to be polite and express that she does not want her date to think she expects him to pay. However, there will arise situations when the woman genuinely wants to pay for the bill, or at least pitch in. Some women feel uncomfortable if the guy pays for the entire bill on a first date, especially if it is her idea to go on the date in the first place. If she offers to pay, politely acknowledge and appreciate the gesture but still try to pay for the bill yourself. If the woman insists, then suggest to split the bill. This is a good way to accommodate both parties without making anyone feel uncomfortable.
While this advice should help to establish an effortless payment approach for the first date, please keep this in mind…If your date isn’t worth the money it takes to pay for a first date (which usually consists of two cups of coffee or some drinks and an appetizer), then maybe you should rethink asking them out altogether. Just keeping it real 
This information/advice only applies in the US. Just so everyone fully understands. Most other countries in the industrialised world have got far past this eons ago. It’s something called ‘equality’ and it works. Just don’t visit one of our countries and naïvely think it’s all like ‘back home’.