Why Guys Don’t Get Second Dates

We live in an age where dates are getting more and more rare, as internet dating gets more popular and relationship rules get less stringent and standard. However, sometimes you meet a girl who you’re really interested, and want to get to know, not just while screaming from across a bar. Ladies are almost always up for a guy to take them on a first date, but getting a second date is tough, and almost solely dependent on your behavior on the first. Here are some reasons that guys don’t get second dates:

1. You were cheap.
Sure, we live in a time where gender equality has more importance than chivalry. Opening doors and pulling out chairs is not totally necessary anymore. But it is still expected for a guy to pay for dinner/drinks/movie tickets on the first date. Not only is it polite, but it is very much a kind gesture that will be greatly appreciated.  Although it’s not totally about the money (or else she’d probably be checking out SugarDaddie.com), if you don’t pull out your wallet and front the bill on the first date, your chances of getting a second are greatly diminished.

2. You got too drunk.
We’re all adults here, and we all know a couple cocktails can really take the edge off a first date. So of course, there is nothing wrong with having fun with your date and having some drinks. And sometimes you’ll both end up getting pretty buzzed. However, if your dates had a glass of wine and your pounding back your 5th shot and slurring about your ex… well… it’s not cute. And that image of you tripping over your chair is going to stick in her mind for a while.

3.You tried to get her too drunk.
There is nothing worse than a guy who keeps ordering you drinks when you say “No, I’m good.” Even if you’re just trying to show that you want her to have fun, it comes off as your trying to get her drunk so you can sleep with her. If she wants another drink, then by all means, order it. But whatever you do, don’t make her feel like you’re trying to lower her inhibitions.

4. You were too interested.

It’s a first date, and naturally, you want her to know that you like her. You can compliment her, and be attentive and kind, but too much talk about how much you’re into her, and how pretty she is, and how you can see a future with her… is creepy and a total turn off. Be at least a little aloof. Women, just like men, enjoy a bit of a chase. If there is none, why should she even try?

5. You hated on your ex. Hard.

Everyone has the ex that they pretty much despise. Perhaps it was a bad break up, or there was cheating, or whatever, but there is nothing weirder than a guy who spends half the date talking about what a terrible human being his ex was. While you may think you’re just showing you’re totally single, to her, it will sound more like you are still totally in love with your ex-girlfriend. And no lady wants to date a guy who is still hung up on another woman. So keep the banter about the ex short and sweet.

Keep these DatePro rules in mind and your chance of getting a second date with that special lady is definitely increased. Good luck!