It’s fairly common knowledge dating sites can be short on women. So much so that they’re often dubbed “sausage fests,” leading the few women that are on the site to be bombarded by messages from men. A recent HuffingtonPost article by Molly Shapiro details the reasons that many women choose not to online date – and the reasons single women should get past those reasons and sign up online today!
1. “Because People Will Think I’m a Loser”
Although women believe online dating “smacks of desperation,” Shapiro notes, going out and looking for men at a bar is just as forward. The only difference? At a bar, “the choices you do have will be severely limited by the simple determinants of time, space and location.”
2. “Everyone Online Lies”
Although Shapiro cites a study that says about 90% of online daters tell a lie, those lies are fairly minor. “A bit of deception about age is common, but only a 1.5 percent deviation. Women tend to shave about 5 percent off their weight, and men tend to add about 1 percent to their height. Most people limit their online lying in anticipation of one day meeting their match, and the fear of getting caught.”
3. “Men Who Date Online Are Scary”
There are, of course, bad people who online date. But probably no more than there are bad people at your favorite bars of coffee shops. Shapiro notes that 1/3rd of internet users have tried online dating, and that most of them are “shy or not adept at picking up women. Some of them are too busy with jobs or hobbies to go trolling for dates in bars. Some don’t like the kind of women they meet there. Some are divorced and have kids to take to soccer practice or help with their homework.” In other words, great guys that you wouldn’t otherwise meet without trying online dating.
4. “But I Won’t Have A Good ‘How We Met’ Story”
Here, Shapiro comes full circle to the “shame factor,” that people don’t want to admit that they met their significant other online. However, as online dating becomes more popular, it seems as though everyone knows at least someone that met their other half online. As Miss Shapiro puts it, “Most people know at least one online dating success story — their second cousin, their boss’ daughter or their best friend’s sister who found love on the Internet. So why not make the next happy ending your own?”
We agree wholeheartedly!
What do you think? Are you open to trying online dating? Why do you think women sometimes steer clear of the online dating world?